We as a parish rejoice in the love that you, as a couple, share for one another and the commitment that has been made to bring you to this day in preparation for your marriage.  Your decision to be married in the Church is an indication that the Christian faith and the sacramental life of the Church are important to you.  In the eyes of the Church, marriage is the sacramental union between a man and a woman that is used in the Bible as the image of God’s faithful love for ancient Israel (Isaiah 54; Jeremiah 3; Ezekiel 16) and Christ’s sacrificial relationship to the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Jesus Himself, together with His mother the Theotokos and the disciples attended and blessed a wedding in Cana of Galilee, performing His first miracle, which assisted in the celebration of that event (John 2:1-11).  When we say that Christian marriage is a sacrament, we use that word to convey the depths of the bond you are about to enter into: a sacramentum in the ancient Roman Empire was the oath of loyalty unto death that a Roman solider took to the emperor when entering the military.  As Christians, the sacrament of marriage is your oath of loyalty unto death to each other and – as a couple – your oath of loyalty unto death to our Lord Jesus Christ.  Christian marriage is intended to be a sign of God’s presence and love in this fallen and broken world.


Our Clergy will assist you everything necessary.  They will work with you in all matters pertaining to your wedding, including setting the date, scheduling meetings, preparing the necessary church documents, etc.  Please feel free to ask them any questions you may have regarding your upcoming marriage. 

Our Clergy will lead you through your wedding rehearsal and coordinate your procession and assists you in any way possible.


A couple desiring to be married should first contact the church office to schedule an appointment. It is preferable to schedule both your wedding date and meetings with the parish priest at least six months prior to the desired date so that scheduling conflicts can be avoided.  According to the official policies of our Archdiocese and Metropolis, weddings may not be celebrated during the fasting seasons or the major feast days of our Church:

  • December 13-25 (The Advent and Christmas season)
  • January 5-6 (Epiphany)
  • February 2  (the Presentation of the Lord to the Temple)
  • Great Lent and Holy Week (usually mid-February, the entire month of March and part of April)
  • August 1-15 (the fast of the Theotokos)
  • August 29 (the beheading of John the Baptist)
  • September 14 (the Exaltation of the Cross)
  • The Ascension
  • Pentecost

This is in keeping with our ancient way of celebrating the Christian mystery in worship and exceptions can be made only rarely, in extreme circumstances, with the permission of the Metropolitan.

Because marriage is a sacrament, weddings cannot be celebrated in a spiritual vacuum.  This presupposes that:

  1. at least one of the couple to be married is an Orthodox Christian, baptized and /or chrismated in the Church, committed to Christ and His Church and an active steward ; and
  2. the intended spouse, if not Orthodox, be a Christian baptized in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit as commanded by the Lord ( Matthew 28:19).

Because of the sacramental nature of the marriage bond (in which a couple not only pledge their love for each other but also their love for Christ) a wedding between an Orthodox Christian and a non-Christian may not be celebrated in the Church.


The following documentation is needed to insure that your wedding will meet the criteria established by the Church and local civil authorities:

  1. verification of the baptism and stewardship commitment of the Orthodox spouse;
  2. verification of the baptism of the non-Orthodox spouse in a Christian community that baptizes in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit (for example, the Roman Catholic and, traditionally, mainline Protestant churches such as the Lutheran and Episcopalian communities);
  3. an ecclesiastical marriage license; and
  4. a civil marriage license.

Please note that because of the separation of Church and state, two marriage licenses are necessary, one for the Church and one for the state.  Also, please note that because a civil license carries a time limit of 90 days in Orange County, your civil license should be secured less than three months prior to the desired date of the wedding.



If either of the parties has been previously married, the death certificate of the deceased spouse or the civil divorce decree issued by the state must be presented to the parish priest.  If the prior marriage was celebrated in the Orthodox Church and ended in divorce, then an ecclesiastical divorce decree must also be presented.


The “koumbaro” or “koumbara” – the sponsor who will participate sacramentally in the service by exchanging the rings and the crowns that form an integral part of the marriage rite – must be an Orthodox Christian and a steward of his/her parish.  The koumbaro or koumbara, if from another Orthodox parish, must provide a letter of introduction from his/her parish priest certifying his/her active stewardship in the life of the Church.  Other members of the wedding party need not be Orthodox Christians.


Care should be taken in selecting the bride’s dress.  Since the wedding crowns are an integral part of the wedding ceremony, headpieces must not interfere with the proper placing of the crowns on the brides’ head.  The bridal gown and attendant’s dresses should also exercise a decorum befitting a Church ceremony.


Among the items necessary to celebrate one’s marriage in the Church are the following:

  1. A pair of rings
  2. A pair of “stefana” or wedding crowns; and
  3. A pair of white candles.

Some couples also choose to provide a silver or gold chalice and tray.  These latter items are optional for the couple as the parish can provide them if necessary.


Although it is not essential to the celebration of this sacrament, organ music has become a customary part of the wedding service in Greek Orthodox parishes in America.  The parsh does not have an organ nor an organist.  If you chose this option then you must coordiante this need with Fr. Dimitrios.  The organist may play as guests enter the Church, a processional for the wedding party and the bride and a recessional at the conclusion of the service.  The music played must honor the Christian faith and be drawn from either the hymns of the Church and/or from that tradition of classical music composed for the Roman Catholic and Protestant communities.  Musical selections must be pre-approved by Fr. Dimitrios.

The chanter, by tradition, is an integral part of the wedding service in the Greek Orthodox Church. Our parish provides a chanter. It is customary to offer the chanter an honorarium for their prayerful participation in your wedding.  If you would like to invite a chanter from another Orthodox parish to participate in your wedding, please consult with Fr. Dimitrios prior to extending the invitation.

If you desire a vocalist other than the chanter to sing prior to the beginning of the service just before the processional you must notify Fr. Dimitrios and he will seek the Metropolitan's blessings.  As with all music sung at the wedding service, it must clearly reflect our Christian heritage and must be drawn from the Scriptures or the hymns of the Church.  Again, if there are any questions, please consult our Clergy.

Fees/honoria for the services of the organist and chanter are your responsibility. Each vocalist establishes his or her own fee and you would pay him or her directly.


Canonical Orthodox Christian guest clergy may participate in your wedding.  It is the responsibility of the priest where the wedding is taking place to extend an invitation to any and all visiting clergy. Orthodox Christian clergymen in communion with the Archdiocese are welcome to participate in the celebration of sacraments with the blessings of Fr. Dimitrios.

Non-Orthodox clergymen from other Christian communities may not take part in the celebration of the sacrament of marriage. It is the official policy of our Archdiocese that clergy from other Christian confessions may be acknowledged at the conclusion of the wedding service and invited forward to the solea where they may offer a prayer and briefly address the couple.


Photographs of your wedding are permitted but should not in any way impede or distract from the celebration of the sacrament.  Photographers should not be conspicuous and should not use a flash during the services.  


In your meetings with the priest, he will discuss the sacramental nature of the marriage bond, the Christian understanding of marriage as it is expressed in the Scriptures and the marriage service itself.  In addition, preparation for marriage includes participating in taking the Prepare and Enrich Inventory – a relationship assessment and skill building tool – and a set of predetermend sessions with Fr. Dimitrios to help support you in the process of preparing for your marriage. All sessions must be completed prior to the day of the wedding. 


To those spouses who are Orthodox: there is no substitute for Jesus Christ in maintaining the dignity and sanctity of the marriage bond.  For the celebration of your marriage in the Church to be real, you must live out, in subsequent years, the Christian commitment that you will make on the day of your wedding.  To those spouses who are not Orthodox: you are always welcome here at Saint Paul’s!  Please note that your marriage in the Church does not automatically grant you membership in the Orthodox Church.  If you desire to become an Orthodox Christian this must be your decision, made after much prayer and thought, in consultation with the parish priest, and never for the sake of convenience.  To both of you: the Lord and this parish are here to help, support and sustain you in your marriage bond and the life of faith to which we are called as Christians.

May the Lord grant you both many years together in peace and oneness of mind and heart!